WOMAN’S FORUM: Confidence crucial

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WOMAN’S FORUM: Confidence crucial

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AT times you wonder why some women act as if they can’t survive or make decisions on their own.

In everything they do, they need someone to hold their hands.

Sadly, even when they are being abused they still choose to suffer as they do not believe in themselves. Even if they reach out for advice, they still have fear and continue to stick to whatever will be causing them pain. In all this, I have realised that if someone does not work on her confidence, then it’s definitely difficult to help her solve whatever problems she will be having.

Even if one dresses up and all, what is more important is confidence. Self confidence isn’t something you just “have”. It’s something that takes work to achieve and then it’s something you need to make a habit. When you hear “confident woman” most people will automatically have the image of someone they resonate within their mind. This person is easily noticed, they portray success and they radiate happiness.

They are your perfect picture of “confidence”.

But what is it about these people that makes them confident? As with most traits, there are certain habits of confident women that you can apply to your life to boost your confidence and in turn increase the happiness you have within yourself.

Every woman must boost her confidence. This is something you definitely work on. Self confidence isn’t something you just “have”. It’s something that takes work to achieve and then it’s something you need to make a habit. To be happy, always put yourself first and do not be a Yes woman. You must be confident and make your own choices and not just go with the flow. Question what you do not understand before agreeing to anything. Take note, here we are not talking about the women who argue every point, but the ones that never question “why”.

Why are you doing what you are doing? Some because of fear, they failed to ask about using condoms and they had unprotected sex exposing themselves to sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies. If you do not ask, you will definitely land yourself in trouble.

One must not be afraid to say “actually, no, that doesn’t work for me, let’s try it this way”. And even further to that, do not be afraid to say “actually that didn’t work, let’s try something different again”. Self confidence is not something you just “have”. It’s something that takes work to achieve and then it’s something you need to make a habit.

You must reserve the word “Yes” for when you really mean it. People who lack confidence usually say yes to everything!! She doesn’t want to let anyone down and she doesn’t want to disappoint anyone. But in doing so, she ends up always doing for others and not for herself.

“No” is a difficult word for a lot of people to say. That’s because it is direct and definitive. A “no” is a closure of a conversation and is a powerful word that can hurt when used incorrectly.

A confident woman knows that saying “no” to others often means she is saying “yes” to herself.

And when you say “yes” to others, you have to mean it. Because it usually means you will be giving up something for yourself (time, energy) and when you do say yes, you mean it. That’s why a “yes” from a confident woman means so much.

Self confidence isn’t something you just “have”. It’s something that takes work to achieve and then it’s something you need to make a habit.

A confident woman uses positive words in her conversations to build herself and others up. She doesn’t have to put other people down in order for her to feel good about herself. A conversation with a confident woman will leave you feeling inspired.

Self confidence isn’t something you just “have”. It’s something that takes work to achieve and then it’s something you need to make a habit.

A confident woman understands that while goals are important, they don’t mean anything unless you have an action plan in place to achieve them. It’s all well and good to sit here and say “my goal is to earn enough money so I can quit my job”, and that’s awesome. But unless you have a plan in place as to how you are going to achieve it, your goal is nothing more than a dream. Goals, action plans and tracking are all areas a confident woman understands and uses well.

Organise and simplify your life knowing that confidence is far more than appearance.

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