Never take a kiss for granted

Nhlalwenhle Ncube

IT usually starts with a kiss and thereafter it marks the journey of lovebirds. Surprisingly, after a few months or years, the same people begin to take it for granted, forgetting that is how they discovered the chemistry.

A kiss is not just a social pleasantry, but has got too much power. Unfortunately most of the married people do not even remember the last time they kissed their partners. The collision of lips and tongues that is often taken for granted has a whole lot more bubbling under the surface than what meets the eye. With flu scares aside, kissing actually does miracles in the body and life in general.

If you remember very well, the kiss made you realise you had met your soul mate. It is undoubtedly the ”mate assessment tool.” As women this must be making great sense. There is a time in your life when you thought you had found your better half, but the kiss proved you wrong.

You failed to kiss the person and when you tried, it is when you realised he was not the one as you could not imagine or stand kissing him. Such is the power of a kiss.

Of course much of the cortex is devoted to picking up sensations from around the lips, cheeks, tongue and nose. Out of 12 cranial nerves, five of them are picking up the data from around the mouth. It is built to pick up the most sensitive feelings — the most intricate tastes and smells and touch and temperature. And when you are kissing somebody, you can really hear them and see them and feel them. So kissing is not just kissing. It is a profound advertisement of who you are, what you want and what you can give.

Other researchers note that kissing is biology’s way of determining who in nature you are most genetically compatible with. At the moment of the kiss, there are hard-wired mechanisms that assess health, reproductive status and genetic compatibility therefore, what happens during that first kiss can be a make-or-break proposition.

Kissing burns calories! Not quite a jog on the treadmill, but an hour’s worth of smooching may burn off half a handfull. It also keeps facial muscles strong. Sure tight abs or cellulite-free thighs may be first on the Tone Up list, but don’t underestimate the workout your mouth gets during a makeout session. Researchers say you use 30 muscles while kissing and the smooching helps keep your cheeks tight.

Naturally kissing relaxes you. Scientific reports say kissing increases the levels of oxytocin, the body’s natural calming chemical and also increased endorphins, the body’s feel-good chemicals. Swapping spit is also noted to increase dopamine, which aids in feelings of romantic attachment.

When you kiss, you are not only doing your heart a favour, but it also boosts your immunity. A certain research discovered that kissing may increase a woman’s immunity from Cytomegalovirus. Cytomegalovirus, contracted through mouth to mouth contact, can cause infant blindness and other birth defects if the mother is a carrier during pregnancy. Otherwise, the bug is relatively harmless in adults. Kissing has long been thought to be a way to pass along bugs and thus strengthen the body’s defences.

The best kisses are like magic, it’s a combination of timing, chemistry and the person you are with.

When was the last time you and your partner kissed? Kissing tells your partner that you are still into them. So why not pucker up and get back to basics with bae? Have you ever realised that after fighting, when the other party kisses you, it becomes confirmation that he has indeed forgiven you.

Here’s a list of some of the best kisses for showing affection, creating intimacy and making things steamy. I know most people know sex positions, not different kisses.

The Spiderman kiss — when the other half is hanging halfway. It was inspired by famous scene where “Spiderman” kisses Mary-Jane. It has so much effect and deep. There is also royal hand kiss where a person kissing the top of another’s offered hand is quite formal. This traditional ritual doesn’t really imply affection, so to fix that, when your partner is kissing your hand, maintain eye contact with them for a deeper sense of connectedness.

Then there is also air kiss which most people take for granted and think it’s for teenagers. It’s often displayed by two people who lean in close for a kiss while puckering their lips but never actually kiss. Make this your go-to with bae when the mood is playful. It brings back the good memories and drive you into a good mood for more when you get your exclusive time.

The Eskimo kiss is arguably the cutest kiss you can think of. Some people might find it corny for couples to rub noses but if it’s your unique couple thing, then own it. Eskimo kisses involve no lip touching and it’s intimate without being sexual. When you exchange breathing air, it’s always sexy! Then the most popular French kiss. It is probably the most common and intimate kiss. It requires an open mouth and a bit of tongue and there’s almost no other kiss that connects two people more. But seeing as this requires some tongue action, always ensure fresh breath so he doesn’t run away next time you try to kiss him.

Display your undying love with a forehead kiss. It is the sweetest kiss of them all. A gentle and lingering press against his forehead make it compassionate and warm. It communicates love in a non-sexual way and is typically reserved for someone really special. Do not waste time, show him that he is that special person and will always be your baby.

Kissing is a way of showing love and never underestimate its power. Never get tired of kissing and as much as you do different sex positions, same should apply to kissing.
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