Nhlalwenhle Ncube
IT is every woman’s dream to have a man who will stick by her side come thunder come rain.
A man who will sacrifice and cut ties with anything that disturbs your happiness. Yes, such men are still there, but it begins with you for it to happen.
Most women wish to be married to a man like Prince Harry.
A man who stands his ground and chooses what’s best for you. It wasn’t an easy decision to stop royal duties, but they had to do it.
And he definitely knew that along the line he was disappointing his family, but all he wanted was for him and his wife to be happy.
If it was in Africa, some people were going to say his wife had bewitched him. At least it was understood well and it can only be love.
It shows that their relationship was built on solid ground, the feeling was mutual and not a one-way avenue.
Every woman who admires to have such a man in life, definitely got some notes from the royal couple. Since we cannot rush and ask for the love potion she used, one can copy her character.
It is important that when married, never get yourself involved in family fights.
Stick to your husband and let him be the one to handle them as he knows how best to treat each one of them.
He can argue and exchange with them harsh words, but they will always forgive him, but if it’s the daughter-in-law, it will be a pending case forever.
Respect them and be humble always.
By so doing, your husband also realises the respect you have for him. Realising your efforts, he can then step up and fight for you.
But if you try and sort issues out by yourself, he will be caught up and confused on what to do. You will be caught on the wrong side as you might end up insulting his family members, worse his mother.
The best way will be toavoid trouble by keeping your mouth zipped so that whenever there are issues, it’s them who are wrong, not you.
In the middle of all the drama, concentrate on your man and shower him with lots of love. Men like attention and love can drive them crazy.
Respect is an attractive trait and when he realises that, he will pay attention to you and only you. Give it a shot because you have got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
A man likes a woman that knows what she wants, to a degree anyway.
There is overdoing in anything and everything if you aren’t careful. You have to be open and be honest with what you want all the time.
If communication is bad, you will find yourself having unnecessary fights.
Relationship take lot of work. As much as we would like to believe the concept of soulmates, relationships are built on trust, love, commitment and also work.
It takes effort from both parties to be in a stable relationship where you feel secure and happy.
And the funny thing about relationships is that despite being in love with your partner, you might still end up feeling stuck, lost, and unhappy.
While it is easy to blame the other person for not being the perfect man you thought he would be, it’s important to reflect upon yourself and see how you can improve your relationship.
Steer clear from the big E because it can hinder you from true happiness.
Ego is always the first thing that stops people from taking that much-needed step to accept their mistakes and move on. Whether you had a spat with your partner or a silly argument, make sure you talk it out, apologise and move on before it’s too late.
With a job and the responsibilities that come with being a mother, it can become difficult to invest a lot of time in each other.
However, a sweet text or a short conversation over the phone lets the other person know that he is remembered.
Nobody is perfect and even though you might believe so at the beginning of your relationship, with time, you will realise that your perfect man is also flawed.
It’s important to accept each other with all their flaws and imperfections. Be open and try to see things from their perspective as well. You will be more at ease with each other when you are able to empathise with the other person.
Sometimes either or both of you might not be on board with the idea of spending every waking minute with each other.
Loving someone doesn’t mean you have to constantly be by their side all the time.
Being independent will reflect in your relationship in a positive way as you become more confident and don’t have to rely on the other person for everything.
This way both of you will have your space and everyone wants me-time.
Each person has their own likes and desires and your partner’s expectations from the relationship might vary from yours.
Even if you are not big on romantic gestures, simple gestures and surprises from your side might be just what your partner needs to feel loved and appreciated.
Let him be convinced that with you by his side you can conquer the world.
If your partner becomes your best friend, you will definitely become a team and fight for each other.
