Kiss hotter than sex

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NOTHING beats a kiss!

If you have to reflect on your sexual encounters, you know there is that someone whom you managed to be intimate with, but never kissed and you avoided that at all costs.

Even if you are married, there are times when you have issues with your husband and surprisingly you manage to have sex with him but refuse to kiss him. What does that mean?

Kisses are far more intimate than sex!

Truth be told, sex does not always need feelings and you can just do it for the sake of it. Even if you were to ask men who are in the habit of seeking services of thigh vendors, they will tell you they hardly get kisses from those women. 

The hard truth is, you can have sex without even looking your sexual partner in the eye. On the other hand, for you to kiss someone it really means a lot as kisses are built on nothing but feelings.

When you are kissing, you have nothing in the world to hide behind, you are at your most vulnerable. 

Check out on these few things, when else is your face so directly close to another’s? When else in your life are you in a situation when you have the opportunity to look at another person so closely? When else do you literally find yourself sharing the same breath which is the force of life with somebody else?

My sister, never underestimate the power of a kiss. You must use it as a weapon to keep the sparkle in your relationship. Even when he gets tempted outside, he must always be haunted by that hot kiss which he can only get from home. 

We all know that nowadays you find men saying, “yonki sepa iyawatsha” meaning that sex is sex no matter where you get it from. The opposite is true when it comes to kissing, it is one thing most people are so particular with.

True intimacy is revealing the rawest, real, most stripped-down version of yourself to your partner. It’s allowing your formerly protective self to get close to another person, both physically and mentally. It’s taking in a person’s scent, to bask in a person’s taste and crawl into his mouth. 

Kissing is the great metaphor for intimacy. We allow the essence of a person to land on our tongues and as you kiss, you breathe each other in — the good and the bad.

There are so many different styles of kissing: soft, sweet kisses that express affection and adoration; passionate, press-you-up-against-the-wall, I-want-to-crawl-inside-of-your-skin and-devour-your-soul kisses; slow, emotional kisses that attain apologies and fuel you with irrepressible sweeps of impassioned love that cut you to the core; explorative kisses, where your tongue navigates the insides of another person and attempts to figure out the roadmap of who he is.

Any one of these kisses is rich with healing powers. Any one of them allows you to work through the deep-rooted issues with vulnerability and fear of exposing the softer sides of letting someone into the most vulnerable part of your body, your mouth.

You have to understand the meaning of a kiss and it is an undisputable fact that it is loaded with far more depth and meaning than sex.

You can’t lock lips with another human for endless hours unless you have feelings for him or beyond the realm of sexual attraction. 

Kissing is where the love, the passion, the FEELINGS are wildly expressed. Eye contact adds to the intimacy of any sexual act!

Kissing comes with lots of benefits. It triggers your brain to release a cocktail of chemicals that leave you feeling so good by igniting the pleasure centres of the brain.

These chemicals include oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, which can make you feel euphoric and encourage feelings of affection and bonding. It also lowers your cortisol (stress hormone) levels.

Oxytocin is a chemical linked to pair bonding. The rush of oxytocin released when you kiss causes feelings of affection and attachment. Kissing your partner can improve relationship satisfaction and may be especially important in long-term relationships.

When your blood vessels dilate, your blood flow increases and causes an immediate decrease in your blood pressure. So this means that kissing is good for the heart, literally and metaphorically!

Kiss the “not tonight dear, I have a headache” excuse goodbye. That dilation of blood vessels and lowered blood pressure can also relieve headaches. Kissing may also help you prevent headaches by lowering stress, which is a known headache trigger.

It can also boost your immune system. Swapping spit can boost your immunity by exposing you to new germs that strengthen your immune system. 

One study found that couples that kiss frequently share the same microbiota in their saliva and on their tongues. Kissing stimulates your salivary glands, which increases saliva production. Saliva lubricates your mouth, aids in swallowing, and helps keep food debris from sticking to your teeth, which can help prevent tooth decay and cavities.

And kissing a romantic partner boosts your sex drive. It leads to sexual arousal and is often the driving force behind a woman’s decision to have sex with someone. 

Kissing is a strong language. Kissing, regardless of whom you are kissing, can have a positive impact on your emotional and physical well-being.

It makes both parties feel good about themselves and can help strengthen relationships of all kinds, so kiss and kiss often. It’s good for you!

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