IT has always been said that long-term relationships eventually become boring and flat as the partners turn into roommates with a contract that is not easy to terminate.
Never believe this myth, but always look forward to having memorable moments in your life with your partner.
It is sad that when some couples experience times when attraction desire or sexual excitement goes low, they quickly assume that the love flame has gone out. With this in mind, the relationship turns into a nightmare which can lead to a separation or worse.
Of course it is impossible to prevent stale moments from occurring, but it is possible to minimise their impact. Couples have to keep relationships fresh and exciting even after being together for more than 10 years. Keeping love alive requires more fun and pleasure.
Nowadays being with someone for 10 years is a lot as many relationships struggle to get to five years. Such short-lived relationships have brought so much fear to those who are still single and they now see the marriage commitment as a joke.
For the marriage institution not to be seen like a cursed thing, those inside must do their best to keep romance alive. They must not let love die and always be prepared to go an extra mile.
Someone is wondering why I am talking about this on women’s column. Yes, nowadays if you raise the issue on why most marriages are failing, all the blame goes to the women. People believe that todays’ women are different from those of the older generations. They claim they are not loving, not strong, not submissive and they do not compromise.
Anyway this is a discussion for another day, but even if women of nowadays are different from those of older generation, there is still one thing in common, they also want to get married, have families and live happily ever after.
So in keeping your relationship, always be prepared to go an extra mile making sure your better half is happy. Sometimes when you see someone everyday, you start taking them for granted. Never stop complimenting him. Humans thrive on praise and positive feedback and will do whatever it takes to get more of it. So if you want more kisses, more sex, more love, make sure that you acknowledge and compliment him all the time. You chose him from the rest, so make sure you keep each other happy forever.
Always make time for each other. It is funny that during those days when you were girlfriend and boyfriend, you knew how important it was to spend quality time together, so now what has changed? There is no such thing as saying there is not enough time to be with my partner or for us to go out and spoil each other. In life there is always enough time depending on how you choose to prioritise it. If you do not invest time in your family, then you are destroying it. A relationship will always require the time, the attention and energy it did in the early days. Never stop dating!
Remember that dates are not only for those who are still campaigning or trying to impress so they get points and be accepted. They can be magic for couples who have been together for years. Leaving home provides a change of scenery and enlivens things for both parties where they get to forget about discussing serious issues only which usually make them cross each other’s paths.
The other thing to take note of is that honeymoons are not only for newly wedded couples. After a couple of years, you still need that time to be far from crazy crowds.
As women it’s high time you do your best to save your marriage and do away with the negative comments and name calling. The problem with today’s women, is wanting to revenge. If he cheats on you, don’t rush to do the same because we live in a patriarchal society. At least if you do your best and roles well, it will help in correcting the bad behaviour of men who have now shifted all the blame to women on failed marriages.
Always remember that love is patient, love is kind and it is not easily angered. It always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres and above all, love never fails!
The other thing is to try and surround yourself with married women. Get me right, I never said disown your single friends, but at least have the married ones as well. Remember they always say, you are the company you keep.
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