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NOWADAYS there is a popular saying that “It will end in tears,” common from jealous people whenever they see a lovey dovey couple. Sorry if that’s what came to your mind when you read the heading of this article.
Here am talking about an adult game ending with someone in tears. Yes it can happen to anyone, it says a lot and it’s not weird as some may assume. The best term used to describe this is crygasm.
Crying after sex is nothing to be ashamed of and may in fact be a compliment.
Having a partner cry after sex may not be the reaction you were after but relax, there is a good reason behind it. Even if you pride yourself on your stiff upper lip above all else, there’s probably a situation or stimulus which will elicit a little cry.
There’s no shame in it, plus crying can be triggered by an emotional response. After all people can cry in response to anything namely films, songs, stories and even sex.
Crying after sex is perfectly natural. There’s a good reason why it might all end in tears and someone has to pass tissues to her partner.
If you have ever cried during or after sex, know that it’s perfectly normal and you are not alone.They might be happy tears, tears of relief or a bit of melancholy.
Tears during or after sex can also be a purely physical reaction. Experts say crying after sex is known as post coital dysphoria (PCD).
PCD symptoms may include tearfulness, sadness, and irritability after consensual sex, even if it was perfectly satisfying. A range of emotions can evoke crying and they are not all bad.
You have probably experienced or witnessed “tears of joy,” such as at a wedding or birth of a child. The same thing can happen during or after sex.Maybe you are head over heels in love or perhaps you just had the best sex ever.
If you haven’t had sex in a while or anticipated it for a long time, these feelings can be even more intense.
Being overwhelmed by the scenario. Did you get totally lost in the moment? These scenarios can rev up tension and create an emotional roller coaster.
You might have quickly bounced from anticipation to fear to ecstasy before crashing back down to earth. Tears may mean you are simply overwhelmed by the thrill of it all.
If you are bothered by the crying response, you can try toning the scenario down a bit to see if that helps. Being overwhelmed by your body’s response. Did you just have the biggest orgasm of your life or was it your first experience with multiple orgasms?
Intense physical sexual pleasure can definitely overwhelm and it’s not surprising that you would cry.
If you have been looking forward to great sex and don’t get the ending you want, you might be frustrated and tense enough to cry.
It may be due to hormonal changes that happen during sex, which can lead to intense emotions. Crying may also be a mechanism trusted source for reducing tension and intense physical arousal.
If you are coming off a dry spell, suddenly letting go of all that pent-up sexual energy could certainly bring you to tears.
Seeing your partner cry can be a little disconcerting and you wonder if something is wrong, but try not to belittle or sound accusatory.
Offer comfort, but respect their wishes if they need some space. You can also bring it up later, outside the heat of the moment. Listen respectfully. Don’t force the issue if they still don’t want to discuss it. Basically, just be there for them.
Crying during or after sex isn’t unusual and while it’s usually not cause for alarm, it can be a sign of deeper issues that should be addressed.
For some, they cry when they have reached the Big O because when sex comes to an end that sense of closeness, happiness and contentment is over.
However, emotional attachments aside, there is a scientific reason — hormones.Once sex is over, there is a drop in the level of these hormones, leaving you open and vulnerable to feeling sad.
These post-sex tears fall into a rather bittersweet category which is neither really happy nor sad.
It’s not so much about it being sad tears, it’s just about feeling like ‘we’ve been really close and I’m sad that it’s over’, the concern is ‘when am I ever going to be that close to my partner again.
These feelings of intense closeness result in an “oxytocin rush,” which can induce the physiological response of crying.
If crying occurs regularly during sex, that’s indicative of an emotional or physical issue requiring deeper examination.
But if it’s a once or twice thing, you are probably just really in your feelings. But no matter the reason you are crying or how frequently it’s happening, you and your partner should always acknowledge the issue.
Crying during sex warrants attention, recognition or acknowledgment. It is important for a woman to know the degree of emotion that she experiences during physical intimacy, as her body may be providing some useful cues.
If it’s a good kind of cry and there’s no sadness involved, all you really have to do is talk to your partner about it. Own it and just be honest.
If you cry after the adult game because of an intense release, it’s a good thing. But if your tears are coming from a negative reason, seek help from professionals.
If you have ever cried during or after sex, know that it’s perfectly normal and you are not alone.
They might be happy tears, tears of relief or a bit of melancholy.
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