Women’s Forum with Nhlalwenhle Ncube
IT is unfortunate that most times women are more worried about what they can do to make sure they leave their men satisfied between the sheets. They go out of their way to do even the unthinkable so they get tight down there. While doing all this, they forget about themselves and you rarely find one putting an effort in what will make her happy and satisfied as well.
Stop catering to men’s needs as if yours don’t matter — especially in the bedroom.
In whatever you do, also make sure you are happy because it’s just as important to seek your own pleasure. Lose the regressive trope of needing to please your man and only your man because that’s totally backwards. Your big O matters just as much as your partner’s does. Be open and have a great sex talk with your partner.
Do not be shy to lead him on and move his hands to where you need them most using verbal and nonverbal communication to ensure a good time for both of you.
Tuning into the moment can help a woman relax and enjoy herself sexually. The benefits of sex extend beyond the bedroom and it is said that a roll in the hay can improve the health of your heart and even boost your immune system.
Plus, regular romps with your partner create an intimate connection that’s crucial for a healthy relationship.
Get the best in between the sheets and stay happy. As a woman it is important to know what you like in the bedroom if you really want to enjoy yourself.
Knowing what feels good, what turns you on, what turns you off, the stimulation you need to move through the process of arousal, the positions you like and a partner who can dance with you in that way and knows the dance, is helpful.
It’s also important to be able to communicate these desires to your partner. Try to use arousing, stimulating language and doing so will help lead you to the kind of sex you would like to have.
If a woman doesn’t feel good about her body, it may be more challenging for her to enjoy sex. A person’s image, including weight concern, physical condition, sexual attractiveness and thoughts about the body during sexual activity determine sexual satisfaction in women. Be confident about yourself so you do not lose focus during the adult game.
The other thing which makes some women fail to enjoy sex is having a mind filled with negative thoughts.
It’s hard to have a carefree romp if you feel disconnected from your significant other or worried about your partner’s fidelity. If you think your partner may be having an affair, it’s important to address it.
Start the conversation in a non-confrontational manner by saying something like, “I feel like we haven’t been connecting lately, and you are always on your phone or texting. It just makes me feel a little unsafe in the relationship.
Then explain that you want your relationship and sex life to be a priority because you value them. If your mind is filled with complaints, you will never enjoy so take out all the dirt and enjoy, getting satisfactory sex. He wants you to communicate.
This goes two ways because he should be expressing his desires to you, too. A partner who can explain exactly how they want to be touched is God given.
Make it a habit to make eye contact with him, that emotional connection works wonders.
It always feels good to see how your partner is feeling and reacting to what you are doing to him. The more women can lose themselves in the moment and enjoy what their man is doing to them, for them, the better.
Humour takes the pressure off, well, pretty much everything. Same thing applies to sex. Do not be too serious, always be in a jovial mood. Having a good laugh can improve intimacy and relieve some of the pressure making you perform at your best. This makes it easier to be spontaneous and let loose.
Making love is when you have sex slower, more intentionally and more passionately. At times you also have to initiate and seduce him so he feels desired and attractive making him to do his best and eager to leave you ‘full’ and satisfied. Initiate sex, it sends a message to your man that you want him, which gives him a major confidence boost.
If you feel like being loud, go for it without restraining yourself.
Do not hold back your moans, groans, screams and growls of pleasure. Men love to hear this, it’s erotic and really turns them on and not to mention, it’s liberating for you too. Do not hold back if you are really feeling it in the moment, it’s just like communicating, only way sexier.
It’s sexy when you are both active participates. Everyone wants an active woman. You can also use your hands to squeeze your man’s arms and pull his body closer to yours, or use your lips to explore more of his body, all these moves will let him know you are loving the action.
If you are a couple which does it missionary on the bed a few nights a week, it could be possible that both you and your partner are craving something different every now and then. No one is suggesting you go out of your comfort zone just to please someone, but explore and have surprises for each other.
Tell him how good it feels when he does something different or remind him of a technique that always gets you off. If he’s not giving you enough foreplay, ask him to use his hand or mouth to warm you up, saying that you want to draw out the experience.
For men, what they see is almost as good as what they get, so make sure to give him an eyeful if you are feeling it too.
Being open about what you like, even if you are worried about what someone might think, is the best way to connect with each other in bed. Don’t be ashamed that he might think its “weird”.
Say out whatever you believe will make you enjoy. Women are often afraid to get naughty in a relationship, because they don’t want to shatter the ‘good girlfriend’ image he has or they don’t want him to think they’re weird. But men want to see that no-holds-barred side of you!
It’s easy to fall into a rut, but there’s nothing like spontaneity to keep things fresh. You may also want to do something unexpected, like initiating a new position.
So be open to varying things in bed. Any change in speed, pressure, or position will make the act more interesting and pleasurable. Variety will keep you in a heightened state of arousal because you never know what to expect and it’s always fun and gives you great experience.
Women deserve to enjoy sex and get satisfied as well.